Another sex fact of the day

Most men cannot reach orgasm more than once in about an hour, and most have 1-4 orgasms per week, depending on their age.

Why men should be thankful for sex toys

There’s a scene in every romantic comedy about a dildo. Either the leading man finds the leading lady’s sex toy or there’s some lame ass conversation about it.

Yawn.

Instead of being intimidated by a dildo, vibrator or other sex toy, men should be buying batteries for the woman who owns the toy. Why?

Because the woman who knows how to make herself cum also knows good sex. A lot of women — especially those who don’t masturbate — have unsatisfying sex lives because they don’t know what they want. How can a woman expect a man to find her clit if she doesn’t know where it is herself? How can a woman expect a man to make her cum, hard and multiple times if she can’t do it herself?

A sex toy is not a replacement for skin to skin contact nor will any woman ever prefer a B.O.B (battery operated boyfriend) over a real one.  So, why not ask her if you can watch her pleasure herself? You might learn something.

While you’re at it, log on to Adam and Eve to find toys you both can play with.

I suggest:
Silicone Triple Orgasm Cock Ring
The Accommodator

Cool Sex Fact

The A-spot is located deeper in the vagina, on the same wall as the G-spot, where the vaginal wall starts to curve upward.

Tell em what you want and don’t be cute about it.

Some times reading sex sites designed for women makes me want to toss my ovaries at the writers over there.

Take The Frisky, for instance. On the one hand, I love their girl power attitude, most of the time. They have great gossip and fashion over there. That being said, I don’t know what kind of missionary sex writers they hired. Women who still think grown women should play coy when it comes to getting what they want in bed. I mean, this is why so many women struggle to have the BIG O!

I just read an article about five moves women love in bed, but are afraid to ask for. On what planet? As if that wasn’t bad enough, then there was the “way to ask” part of the article. I’ve always found that asking my dude to “fuck me harder,” “give it to me,” “choke me,” does the job.

This, however, must be outside of the scope of The Frisky:

5. She wants to be spanked: Lightly spanking a woman (i.e., nothing that could cause a bruise) can feel amazing for both of you: I’ve heard lots of women say that getting spanked sends lots of tingly feelings to their vaginal and anal areas and I’ve heard lots of men say spanking a woman makes them feel like they are physically demonstrating their lust. I’ve been pretty open about my own enjoyment with getting spanked and, I promise you, lots of women really like it. Unfortunately, asking to be spanked can be embarrassing for a woman because, well, it is sort of silly!

How to ask: Just like when you’re asking a woman if she wants to be dominated, the key is to take baby steps. While you’re making out, touch her ass a lot; squeeze it, rub it; show her you think her booty is a-maz-ing. Whisper in her ear, “Can I give you a little spank?” If she says yes, do it once, softly. Ask, “Do you like that?” If she says yes or even if she’s ambivalent, ask if you can do it a few more times, all the while kissing her and still squeezing and rubbing her ass. Then you should probably stop. Next time you guys are cuddling, bring up how you liked giving her little spanks and ask if she wants to try it again sometime. If she’s receptive, ask her if she wants you to do it harder or if she’d like to lie in your lap while you spank her. One more thing: my advice about dominating a woman is the same here, too. Do not call her names or humiliate her unless she tells you that’s what she wants. For all you know, she has issues left over from childhood about being physically punished and calling her a “bad girl” might be upsetting. The same goes for women who might have had abusive relationships in the past: Even if your woman really likes getting spanked, it’s important to remember that spanking is still hitting and you need to make it 100 percent absolutely clear that you’re only doing it in the context of sexual arousal.

Here’s the deal, if you can take your clothes off and hop into bed with your mate, you shouldn’t have any barriers. And you shouldn’t be too damned shy to say what you want. Your mate is willing to go as far as you’re willing to take him or her. But a closed mouth doesn’t get fed and being cutesy with sexual requests, well that’s damned childish. And you probably have a Hello Kitty vibrator–I have serious issue with those.

So, when you want something, whether it’s a spank on the ass or a dick up your ass, just say so.

Cool Sex Fact

47% of men report that a woman’s intelligence is a big turn on.

Cool Sex Fact

During sex, pelvic floor muscle exercises known as Kegels offer benefits for women.

Cool Sex Fact

Pineapple and celery can make semen taste sweet, while coffee and alcohol can make it taste bitter.

Getting off while giving him a blow job

There’s something submissive and powerful about dropping to your knees in front of your man and performing oral sex.

Despite the fact that a real report came out today linking oral sex to cancer, blame HPV, if you and your partner have been together long enough to be tested for STDs oral sex is still a satisfying part of sex.

And, it doesn’t have to be all about him either. Women, you can come while blowing your man and it doesn’t have to be while in the 69-position. Think about this: when you take his penis into your mouth, you are in control of his pleasure. We all get off on a power trip. When the boy toy and I are together, I enjoy “penis worship.”

Just stroking it, licking it and playing with his balls. It drives him crazy and makes me wet.

Here’s what the fine folks at YourTango have to say about getting off while getting him off. And just one side note, swallowing will make him shiver and do a fist pump!

Venerate Your Man
In that moment, he becomes his penis, because your passion is pure—not dependent on his money or status or good looks. (Sometimes it’s the best part of him, isn’t it? I’ve had more than one intense personal relationship where I loved the penis—but the man, not so much. I call it being dick-matized.)

But trust me: Make love to his penis alone and the man, its life support system, will love you for that.

Really, there is no better way of reducing the stress and tension of daily life than taking a penis into your mouth and sucking. It’s the big girl’s pacifier.

Perfect BJ Prep
First: Get down on your knees, grasp that big boy and look at it.

Have you ever really done that? A penis is a beautiful thing. Each one is a different work of art.

Second: Pay close attention to how the penis responds as you lick and suck and stroke.

The obvious mouth moves—sucking the head, swirling your tongue around the corona, strumming the frenulum—always work. But that penis has its special little places. Find them. One of my all-time favorite organs had this spot on the underside of the shaft, about a third of the way down. I could make it come by sucking there.

If you need some inspiration, check out my technique, The Basic Black Dress of Blow Jobs.

How to Get Yours While You’re Down There
I call this the Wild Card Chakra Trick. Chakra number five, located at the throat, is said to be the chakra of creative expression.

Some women can reach orgasm while performing fellatio because there really is a physiological connection between the throat and the vagina. If you are one of those women, this is your extra-sexual-energy zone. You feel the direct connection between mouth/throat and genitals.

There is a quick way to find out if you have the potential to come while giving a blowjob. Suck the head of his penis and pay attention to how your throat is responding. If it seems to quiver or vibrate faintly in time with your sucking, you can do this.

As you are sucking, breathe deeply and rhythmically. Imagine that your breath is a circle of fire inhaled into your nostrils, filling your mouth and throat and exhaled through your genitals. Flex your PC muscle in time with your breathing and sucking.

Sounds good to me!

Cool Sex Fact

The rate of condom breakage is between 0.4% and 2.3%, while the rate of condom slippage is between 0.6% and 1.3%.

Cool Sex Fact

A recent survey shows that 52% of women regularly fake orgasms.

That is not cool!