Some times reading sex sites designed for women makes me want to toss my ovaries at the writers over there.
Take The Frisky, for instance. On the one hand, I love their girl power attitude, most of the time. They have great gossip and fashion over there. That being said, I don’t know what kind of missionary sex writers they hired. Women who still think grown women should play coy when it comes to getting what they want in bed. I mean, this is why so many women struggle to have the BIG O!
I just read an article about five moves women love in bed, but are afraid to ask for. On what planet? As if that wasn’t bad enough, then there was the “way to ask” part of the article. I’ve always found that asking my dude to “fuck me harder,” “give it to me,” “choke me,” does the job.
This, however, must be outside of the scope of The Frisky:
5. She wants to be spanked: Lightly spanking a woman (i.e., nothing that could cause a bruise) can feel amazing for both of you: I’ve heard lots of women say that getting spanked sends lots of tingly feelings to their vaginal and anal areas and I’ve heard lots of men say spanking a woman makes them feel like they are physically demonstrating their lust. I’ve been pretty open about my own enjoyment with getting spanked and, I promise you, lots of women really like it. Unfortunately, asking to be spanked can be embarrassing for a woman because, well, it is sort of silly!
How to ask: Just like when you’re asking a woman if she wants to be dominated, the key is to take baby steps. While you’re making out, touch her ass a lot; squeeze it, rub it; show her you think her booty is a-maz-ing. Whisper in her ear, “Can I give you a little spank?” If she says yes, do it once, softly. Ask, “Do you like that?” If she says yes or even if she’s ambivalent, ask if you can do it a few more times, all the while kissing her and still squeezing and rubbing her ass. Then you should probably stop. Next time you guys are cuddling, bring up how you liked giving her little spanks and ask if she wants to try it again sometime. If she’s receptive, ask her if she wants you to do it harder or if she’d like to lie in your lap while you spank her. One more thing: my advice about dominating a woman is the same here, too. Do not call her names or humiliate her unless she tells you that’s what she wants. For all you know, she has issues left over from childhood about being physically punished and calling her a “bad girl” might be upsetting. The same goes for women who might have had abusive relationships in the past: Even if your woman really likes getting spanked, it’s important to remember that spanking is still hitting and you need to make it 100 percent absolutely clear that you’re only doing it in the context of sexual arousal.
Here’s the deal, if you can take your clothes off and hop into bed with your mate, you shouldn’t have any barriers. And you shouldn’t be too damned shy to say what you want. Your mate is willing to go as far as you’re willing to take him or her. But a closed mouth doesn’t get fed and being cutesy with sexual requests, well that’s damned childish. And you probably have a Hello Kitty vibrator–I have serious issue with those.
So, when you want something, whether it’s a spank on the ass or a dick up your ass, just say so.
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