Getting off while giving him a blow job

There’s something submissive and powerful about dropping to your knees in front of your man and performing oral sex.

Despite the fact that a real report came out today linking oral sex to cancer, blame HPV, if you and your partner have been together long enough to be tested for STDs oral sex is still a satisfying part of sex.

And, it doesn’t have to be all about him either. Women, you can come while blowing your man and it doesn’t have to be while in the 69-position. Think about this: when you take his penis into your mouth, you are in control of his pleasure. We all get off on a power trip. When the boy toy and I are together, I enjoy “penis worship.”

Just stroking it, licking it and playing with his balls. It drives him crazy and makes me wet.

Here’s what the fine folks at YourTango have to say about getting off while getting him off. And just one side note, swallowing will make him shiver and do a fist pump!

Venerate Your Man
In that moment, he becomes his penis, because your passion is pure—not dependent on his money or status or good looks. (Sometimes it’s the best part of him, isn’t it? I’ve had more than one intense personal relationship where I loved the penis—but the man, not so much. I call it being dick-matized.)

But trust me: Make love to his penis alone and the man, its life support system, will love you for that.

Really, there is no better way of reducing the stress and tension of daily life than taking a penis into your mouth and sucking. It’s the big girl’s pacifier.

Perfect BJ Prep
First: Get down on your knees, grasp that big boy and look at it.

Have you ever really done that? A penis is a beautiful thing. Each one is a different work of art.

Second: Pay close attention to how the penis responds as you lick and suck and stroke.

The obvious mouth moves—sucking the head, swirling your tongue around the corona, strumming the frenulum—always work. But that penis has its special little places. Find them. One of my all-time favorite organs had this spot on the underside of the shaft, about a third of the way down. I could make it come by sucking there.

If you need some inspiration, check out my technique, The Basic Black Dress of Blow Jobs.

How to Get Yours While You’re Down There
I call this the Wild Card Chakra Trick. Chakra number five, located at the throat, is said to be the chakra of creative expression.

Some women can reach orgasm while performing fellatio because there really is a physiological connection between the throat and the vagina. If you are one of those women, this is your extra-sexual-energy zone. You feel the direct connection between mouth/throat and genitals.

There is a quick way to find out if you have the potential to come while giving a blowjob. Suck the head of his penis and pay attention to how your throat is responding. If it seems to quiver or vibrate faintly in time with your sucking, you can do this.

As you are sucking, breathe deeply and rhythmically. Imagine that your breath is a circle of fire inhaled into your nostrils, filling your mouth and throat and exhaled through your genitals. Flex your PC muscle in time with your breathing and sucking.

Sounds good to me!